2 Ways Low Self Esteem Hinders You
If you answer yes to any of these ten questions, you may be a victim of low self-esteem…
1. Are you afraid to take risks?
2. Do you usually anticipate the worst in any given situation and fear the outcome?
3. Do you simply fear the unknown?
4. Do you worry so much about what others think of you that you cannot perform?
5. Do you constantly wonder if other people are talking about you?
6. Do you seem to be more sensitive to negative feedback than other people are?
7. Do you fear criticism?
8. Is your life limited to a very small circle of people?
9. Are you happy and outgoing with your friends and family, but become quiet when people you don’t know enter the picture?
10. Are you open and comfortable talking with your own gender, but become tongue-tied around the opposite sex?
In this article I will discuss two critical problems associated with low self-esteem.
1. Low self-esteem limits your peace of mind, your personal freedom, and your ability to express yourself fully!
Because your low self-esteem makes you want to avoid social encounters your opportunity to build confidence is sacrificed. The more social encounters you avoid, the better you get at avoiding them! Therefore, you are actually reinforcing your fear.
It’s just like practicing to be a social retard – Soon you become frozen in fear and completely unable to function in normal social settings. This behavior is very frustrating and can destroy your peace. The “you” you were born to be is violated, and you cannot be your true, authentic self. By not allowing yourself to experience new things, you are perpetuating your fear, which lowers your self-esteem even more.
But, these problems are about how they are affecting you! What about how they are effecting other people?
2. Low self-esteem inhibits your ability to bless other people!
When you are so worried about what other people think of you, you become incapable of being a blessings. What’s happening is, your thoughts become inward, and you become more preoccupied with what kind of impression you’re making to care much about them. It has become “All about you!”
Those who experience low self-esteem tend to be viewed as unfriendly, standoffish, self-centered, arrogant, or even rude! No one wants to be around someone like that. In reality you are probably not really like that, but you may as well be. Your impression on other people is still the same.
How can you truly make a difference in someone else’s life if you can’t forget about yourself for a moment and just put yourself out there? The fact is you will never be ultimately happy while low self-esteem is holding you back.
Conclusion
God loves you no matter what your opinion of yourself is. You are “fearfully and wonderfully made,” created by Him who knew you while in your mother’s womb! He has a special plan just for you (Psalm 139:13-14). You are absolutely unique with strengths and abilities that know one else has, so don’t sell yourself short by letting low self-esteem rule you.
Monitor what you are allowing into your mind. Eliminate those things that make you feel small, incomplete, or even worthless. Soap operas, romance novels, scary movies, and the worst of all… pornography! They are are all bad news and can make your life a wreck!
Read the Book of John from the Bible regularly, plus some other good books on self-esteem written by Christian authors. Also, associate with people who have positive self-esteem.
The bottom line is, what you allow into your mind and What you intentionally put into it are directly linked to the situations and circumstances you find yourself in!
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Discover How Your Tragic Events can open the Door for Your Future Success
They are people who pondered and asked why certain tragic events in life occurred to them. The events can be the loss of loved ones, loves ones leaving them, handling rejections from work and overcoming massive obstacles such as injury. It can be a daunting task going through such experiences but you realized that those who are willing to overcome the odds ultimately achieve success in their life.
Let us take a look at the following. Tom, a young guy in his early twenties, who has computer design skills, has finally found the courage to find a job. It was during the difficult economic recession period. He went for numerous job applications and was rejected. It was only after six months that he finally landed a job in small design company. Tom was excited and nervous during his first day. He was glad that finally he has a job. His day started slowly and his workload piled up, Tom also realized that he has no mentor. He was given task beyond his ability and skills. He found it difficult to adapt to the new pace. “This is only my first day at work”, he said to himself.
Finally, after 4 hours in job, Tom boss realized that he can barely managed the pace of the work. He called Tom into his office. He told Tom that he is not needed anymore. As Tom headed back home, he could not believe at the turn around of his life. Everything was well before. Now, he is facing failures after failures. Tom found it hard to accept it and broke down. But he was lucky to have supportive loved ones who encouraged him to keep going.
Tom did not give up. He kept on going. He realized that he wants to help nurture the young to learn from failures and be determined to achieve success in life. He found education as a wonderful tool to develop the young generation. He started by giving it back for free or minimal education fees for his services to educate them. After a few months, he decided to educate the young on a bigger scale. He went to various institutions to apply for a job there but he received countless rejections again. Finally after the umpteen times of trying, he finally landed a job that enabled him to contribute immensely to the young.
Tom still does face mistakes and failures in his attempts to inspire the young but this time around Tom with great experiences, realized failures are part of success. In fact, Tom uses it effectively to explain to the young about learning from your failures to keep going to achieve success in life. Tom felt that his past failures were actually paths leading to his definition of success. His moments of great satisfaction became a reality when one of the young he shared his experiences with said to him. “Mr Tom, you are so kind and I want to thank you for your sharing and inspiring us to have the courage to achieve success and dreams in life”. That moment he realized that his past tragic incidents in life opened the door for his current success in life. It was a moment to treasure.
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Doing What You Love Will Lead You To Success!
Some people they think that success is something very exclusive and elusive, they think that being able to start a business is not easy, being able to become a millionaire is difficult.
So how does one reach his way towards the top and become successful?
Everybody wants to go after success but the funny thing is that if you ask the following question to many people, if you ask them “What is success to you?” They will stare you blankly in the face and they say, “I don’t know”.
I don’t know about you but there are many people, they want success but they don’t quite strive for it.
If I were to ask you this question, what do you really love to do? What are you interested in? And if you say computer games, that’s fine.
If you say, playing golf, that’s fine.
Here’s my take on the above answers, if you could do that for the rest of your life, would you be motivated?
The answer would be a definite yes. And I am sure that you would give it your hundred percent and thus be successful in what you do.
As far as doing the things that you love, there are some people who say, “Hey, I want to do something that I love but it’s not going to get me that kind of income.
Let’s say someone loves drawing cartoons. They will have this big question in their head, “Is drawing cartoons really going to lead me to success?
Here’ my answer this, “Anything that you love to do can lead you to a lot of wealth and success provided you know the way to market It”
For example, if you love lizards, if you got a fetish and passion for lizards, can you become a millionaire? Of course you can.
You know why? In the entire world of, 3 to 4 billion people, there are people who love lizards and would like to know more about lizards. Knowledge like how to feed lizards, and how to take care of them.
Here’s another example, if you love Star Wars, do you think there are millions of people out there who would love Star Wars?. If you can come out with a realistic looking light-saber, or you can compile the best quotes said by Yoda, there could be a market for that.
So, you must have the marketing savvy to bring your knowledge and then your love, to that market.
The trouble with most people is that they though they have a talent for something, they do not know how to market. So I’ll say that the key to be able to succeed in anything, is that you must learn how to market, you must learn how to sell and also how to manage your finances.
And when your passion of whatever you do then comes in naturally, that will make you very successful in whatever you do.
Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Discover his million dollar secrets and claim your FREE bonus CD ‘6 Ways To Achieve Anything In Life’ at http://www.PavingTheWayToTheTop.com
Are you Communicating Effectively?
Success in life usually means being successful with people. Rarely do you see someone ever make it to the top alone. And being successful with people is all about communication.
Whenever we communicate with someone, do we always get the response we want? In our attempts to motivate our staff, do they always respond by getting motivated? Do we manage to transfer the meaning of our communication across in the manner we expect all the time?
The answer is a flat no!
Learning and applying the following strategy on effective communication will enable us to communicate more effectively and successfully.
Words, Tonality & Body Language
Communication consists of three major elements. The words we use, our tone of voice and our body language.
According to research, the total impact of our communication consists of words (7%), Tone of voice (38%) and body language (55%). Body language is made up of our facial expression, gestures, posture, breathing pattern, eye movement and muscle tension.
Although what we say is extremely important, it is the least impactful when compared to how we say it (tone of voice and our body language).
As a salesperson, your ability to effectively communicate your product benefits determines the outcome of the sale.
As a business owner, your ability to motivate your staff, attract new clients and investors is determined by your power as a communicator.
To be an effective teacher or parent, you must be able to motivate, inspire, convince, build rapport and sell ideas to your children or students.
You can tell a client how great and exciting your company is but if your tone of voice is dull, your face expressionless and your body is sagging with fatigue, it would be difficult to expect him to buy or accept your idea.
Or you could be a teacher with the most deadpan expression and tone of voice wondering what is the reason of you not being able to motivate or inspire the students under your charge.
The point is that when we communicate, we mustn’t only pay attention to our words, neglecting the more important factors of our tone of voice and our body language.
In order to communicate effectively, it is imperative for us to make sure that our non verbal communication is not sabotaging us, but aligned and congruent with our highest thoughts, enabling us mastery of the communication process.
Master the art of communication and you’ll start to see success become easier to achieve because people who like will help you on your way to achieving your goals.
Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Discover his supercharged success secrets and claim your FREE bonus report ‘Supercharge Your Success!’ at http://www.SuccessWithNLP.com